Before I begin, for a fuller dive into r/K selection theory see the following three clips.
r/K selection refers to a theory of reproductive strategy popularized by ecologists MacArthur and Wilson in the late 60s and when understood properly it can be a very powerful tool when it comes to understanding and being successful with skirt. The theory sprung into the imaginations of the red pill and game community around the early 20 teens, bolstered eventually by the efforts of The Anonymous Conservative and his book ‘r/K selection in Politics’.
The letters r and the K relate to the letters used on the algebraic equations used to measure the behaviours of various species. The r measured the reproductive rate of organisms where the K measured the capacity limit (Kapazitätsgrenze).
In short, an r sprays out seeds and relies on sheer numbers for survival (like a dandelion) where a K would rely on smaller numbers and heavy parental investment (say a panda bear). I’ll discuss this more further down the page.
For a long time, many pickup artists just thought that r meant alpha and K meant beta, believing that since K selects are concerned with dutiful provisions for their offspring, K must mean ‘provider’ and therefore beta. It followed that r meant the opposite.
I’ve always understood r/K selection in terms pickup, ever since my teens. I just didn’t know there were agreed terms, supported by scientific endeavour, to describe my lived experience.
Pickup’s r selected roots
The Mystery Method is a truly excellent discussion on how skirt responds to players. However, Mystery targets largely R selected targets in clubs and bars in LA. While his method is appropriate for all targets – the tools he develops for himself to reflect his method are largely r leaning routines that strike a chord with the largely r selection market he is working.
Neil Strauss then writes ‘The Game’ which is chock full of these r based routines but very little explanation of the engine behind it. Everyone reads The Game, but they don’t read the Mystery Method because most people are looking for quick wins and don’t think they need to really dig much deeper once they have routines.
A swathe of creepy wannabe PUAs think that pickup is r based routines to pick up r selected skirt in bars. They learn these routines and they get success with generally low value, but at times hot, r selected targets in bars.
They are confused when top quality skirt doesn’t respond to ‘pickup’. They dismiss it as, ‘they are simply harder to get and I need to get my game tighter’.
They don’t. They just require someone who is more than just a flashing hat.
Because so many guys in pickup are those who only got success when they learnt pickup, (which by now includes a tsunami of low value guys with r based routines scoring low value girls) this belief festered that all girls respond to r selected behaviour. If you just get good enough at the r stuff, there’s enough slut in every skirt that will eventually crack under the brilliance of your douche-baggery.
I suspect this because they didn’t have any successes that came naturally. Their evidence base is simply that r works. Until they learnt r, they got nothing. Now they’re getting something. So r is king. It’s unthinkable that it’s only part of the story.
They also get this idea that all skirt want ‘alphas’. Which is true, they largely do. But being alpha and being r selected are not the same thing.
The Slut Spectrum
High Slut/r Selected Low Slut/K Selected
In my youth I knew that some targets responded to me acting like Keith Richards and I knew instinctively what type it was. The High Slut girls responded to danger behaviour. I didn’t know this had anything to do with r selection, that came years later. I didn’t even call it a slut spectrum back then, that came years later too.
It was just a vague truth that I instinctively knew.
I also knew that some targets, while they liked the bad boy stuff, it wasn’t enough alone and too much of it turned them well off. They wanted reliable winners. These were the Low Slut targets.
In my experience I found that generally, the lower the ‘S’, the much higher the quality of the skirt.
On a slightly related issue, I’ve also seen many instances of guys in pickup getting obsessed with this idea of quick pickups, street kiss closes, same day lays and street stops where you get the target hyper escalated and talking about sex there and then at the bus stop. I am dubious as to the value of all this rapid seduction hysteria. It’s said often by people who, for one reason or another, don’t understand what they are talking about. Guys who are learned seducers simply don’t have that background of guys with natural ability, so they only see things through the lens of r based pickup routines.
Yes, it can happen. I’ve seen it happen. I got SDLs off street game long before ‘SDLs off street game’ was a thing. Without a doubt it can happen. High Slut, highly r selected skirt will SDL you, but before you plough in with super duper hyper escalation two minutes after meeting them, you could actually practice some game and work out where she is at on the slut spectrum. Then use the correct tool for the job. I saw a blindfolded man score a bulls-eye at darts once. That doesn’t mean that I am going to wear a blindfold every time I play darts. More often than not I see rapid escalation fail or the quality of the girl is low, in looks often and always in manners. In fact, the only SDLs off street game I know of that have been with hot girls (girls above a 7) have been ones I have done myself and in hindsight, both girls were marginally unstable; both were from shaky family backgrounds.
The way I saw it in my youth was that skirt places along a ‘Slut Spectrum’. Some targets are very high S [slut] and some are very low S. Where they place on the Slut Spectrum correlates to many things, such as including how they have been raised. One key observation I have made in the last few years is that where they place on the slut spectrum pretty much equates to where they place on the r/K spectrum?
Basically high S is high r and low S is low r.
How is all this going to help me with skirt?
Very much. Bear with me.
I asked a student to describe what would be a girl he could really want to get with – outside of external beauty. He told me he was looking for the following:
“She’d be from a really good background. Not necessarily rich, but a financially secure and respectable family, she’d have good parents and strong family values. She’d be well educated and probably privately schooled, but while she would be pursuing her own career or hobbies they would not be something that she is ‘passionate’ about. She’d be passionate about her relationships, her husband and children. She would be very discriminating in the company she keeps and certainly she won’t have slept around”.
A few hours later he then told me a story about how he met exactly one of these unicorns not too long ago and how he’d tried to escalate her in the middle a shopping centre. He told me how she was ‘super into it’, they went for coffee, he got her talking about sex in Starbucks… but he couldn’t get her home and she never returned his calls.
He couldn’t understand why she flaked. He thought his mistake was everything from escalating too much, escalating too little, losing the frame by going to her choice of coffee shop. He thinks if only he had stuck with her and continued his game, she’d have finally ‘cracked’.
I told him his mistake was thinking that K selected skirt respond to r selected pickup but he respectfully disagreed. He’s still single today.
There is a lot or r about these days. With expanding Democratic Socialism comes booming R selection. For example, the fiat currency illusion of unlimited resources and the Marxist destruction of the family unit has led us to a situation where K selected skirt is simply in short supply. If you meet a genuinely top quality target, an Audrey Hepburn in the modern day, then she is very unlikely to be r selected. If she is intelligent and well turned out, well spoken, trustworthy, feminine and clean living then she is likely from a good family background. She’ll be high K.
Yes, she’ll respond to a bad boy. Most skirt does to some degree. But she’ll respond more to a good man. Get the balance right.
(When I say quality I mean in looks and manners. When it comes to game, I assume you know we’re talking about beauty. That’s a given. It’s not game if it’s below an 8. So when I talk about ‘quality women’ on this blog, I am talking more about their manners and assuming great looks).
K selection leans towards things like… clean living, caution, long term planning, strong family bonds and perceiving value in quality. R selection leans towards the opposite… living wild, short term focus, weak family bonds, no necessity for quality.
Look at the below and see why.
|Rabbits (r Selected)||Wolves (K Selected)|
|Clean Living||They don’t live long. It could all be over in a moment when the fox comes. They live in the moment.||They have to look after themselves. They have to stay alive to hunt and raise their young properly. They necessarily must look after themselves.|
|Planning||Small amygdala. Short life span, high predation, abundance of resources (grass will never run out). No need or capability for long term planning||Larger amygdala. Longer life span. They are predators so they have to earn their food. It doesn’t literally grow on trees. They have to not have too many children. Food is scarce.|
|Family||Low investment in children. They have many and at an early age too since they get eaten. They don’t put much investment in rearing since all they have to learn is how to run and chew.||High investment in children. They have less so they have to put more effort into protecting and preparing them. They have to teach them how to hunt. Children and mating are serious decisions for the K selected.|
|Quality||Rabbits don’t compete for resources. Grass is everywhere. A quality mate doesn’t matter. Just need a pulse.||Wolves see the value in quality. A quality wolf wins out over a shabby one. A better hunter, more intelligent. The female wolf picks a quality mate.|
To get K selected girls, I had to use K selected pickup to build that connection and prove myself. And it took time. r selected hi-5s, flashing hats and douche-bag game would simply not work with these girls. You have to attune yourself to working out where a target sits on the slut spectrum and model your game accordingly.
If you have found a unicorn and it is possibly K selected, then don’t be an amateur and try to remove her knickers after 3 minutes in Starbucks.
The top drawer seducer strikes when he knows what his target wants, so find out what she is looking to buy (in terms of a man) before you start to sell it to her.
You can see that cautious K’s are pre-occupied with quality and stability. They need good strong family ties in order to get the best possible results for their children. They also need to put more attention towards their children because they have so few of them. The K knows that not providing a stable, quality family environment would be a catastrophic disservice to a child. The K knows that the best people to keep around her children are it’s mother, father and grandparents because those people are the ones who have the most direct and closest genetic link and the most genetic investment.
K selected skirt doesn’t have any interest in Government money and chasing hypergamous desires. They simply take their time, make good decisions and stick to them.