Month: May 2017

New Home?

Bones is tired of ‘the game’. He’s not tired of skirt, he’s just tired of the hunt. It’s not for him. He wants to settle down, find a genuine quality hot girl and cash in his market value while it’s at a high. Maybe he will clack a few dappy tarts along the way if it’s not too distracting from the quest, but he’d rather not.

Maybe I already am settled down, I don’t know, but I said I’d help Bones in his quest. So our idea was to choose a town in Eastern Europe and make a go of it this summer, see where it leads us.

We worked out that for just a slight amount more than we spend on flights and AirBnB rentals each summer on jaunts, we can rent an apartment full time somewhere.

It’s about £3.5k a year on flights and AirBnBs to do separate jaunts over the summer as opposed to £4k to stay in one place and pay a year of rent and bills. So therefore just an extra £500 for a full time gaff.  You don’t get to travel around to different locations but you do get to spend more time for your money in one place, you get to keep a base, have all your clothes and guitars somewhere, do some work and projects with some stability. More importantly, you get to build a social circle. No more leaving town on the last day just as that 8 or 9 has started to respond to your texts.

Where is the promised land?

There isn’t one. Nowhere is perfect. Our first landing was Zagreb in Croatia. We spent a week there in late April, looked at a few apartments and considered the town. It’s beautiful. It’s cheap. It’s clean. Lots of wife material. Zagrebians are, on the whole, really cool people. Cons: It’s far too small. You can come here and do day-game for a few days but you can’t do it if you’re living here and you need the day game from time to time to get something extra going.

If you’re just doing social circle, then it’s fine, but we do think we need some option on day game to keep the blood flowing and kick start a few leads if things are moving slowly.

So we then went to Belgrade, a bigger town with a bit more going on and a bit more anonymity.

But Belgrade was a bit of a bust. Firstly, Krauser was there, so we had to listen to all that for a week. I told him at one point I’d bought myself a ‘juice machine’ and he got excited:

‘What does it do to them?!’, he asked, wide eyed.

Belgrade would be the perfect town I think. It’s slightly bigger, got hot skirt, but there were two problems.

There was a slight anti English feeling amongst the men. Not good if you want to live there and have a life. You’re going to have to put up with a bit of aggro now and then. That’s great when you’re 21 and in your own country, not so good when you’re 40 and in a foreign country.

But worse than that were the migrants. There were hundreds of migrants living on the streets around the train station and I don’t buy that they’re all doctors and engineers. They were all young men acting aggressively. I think they’re dangerous. They hang around in packs and skulk around the streets. In the week we were there, there was a woman attacked in a hat shop across from our AirBnB and a rape at knifepoint in Kalemagdan Park. And they are just the ones we knew about.

I’m not willing to put political correctness over the safety of myself, my friends and my girlfriend. I’ll pretend only up to that point, then reality kicks in.

So Belgrade is out.

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So we ended up here, in an undisclosed port town in Croatia. I can’t name it since it’s small and I am going to blog about it. It’s not perfect, but where is? It’s on the sea, it’s busy, it has a local scene and it’s cheap. It also does that Burek stuff I like for about 80p. We looked at a few apartments found a banging top one and should be signed up by the end of the week.

Bones wants to settle down. He wants a skirt, a kid, a bulldog, a life. I’ll blog our adventures occasionally as we try to work the town as if it’s one big bar.

Basic Night Game Method

When I began my game journey, there were no major forums or Facebook groups (there was no Facebook, just MySpace). I found all my early wings on Gumtree or Craigslist. It was genuinely underground.

There was no such thing as day game. There was no such thing as even a direct opener. Game was a long drawn out charade of a wholly indirect nature. It was enormously effective but it took skill and charm to execute properly. My early crew and I spent a good long five years doing ‘game’ in London. That meant indirect bar game. As wholly different to street-pickup as you can imagine. In fact, in my opinion, day-game is not really game. It’s a hack. A short-cut. It’s just an enormously effective one and you’d be crazy not to take it.

If you want results, day-game is king. If you want genuine skill as a pickup artist, then you need to learn night game.

The whole idea of night game is that you use a static environment with a fairly stable base of actors. If there are 100 people in the bar, over the course of the hour or two, you’re likely going to have the same core of 80 people you’re working with.

Because the environment is static, you have time to raise your value in the target’s eyes before you open her.

Nowadays, night game, good night game, is as rare as a tolerant Leftie. I see guys doing ‘night game’ now and it’s little more than normal chode game with some cockiness and negs thrown in or just street game in a bar. It’s a lost art. But if you’re interested, here are the basics.

One: Suitable Bar

You need to find a bar, not too loud, with a nice blend of seated and standing areas and with a selection of targets. Not every bar is good for game. It’s an art in itself selecting the correct environment.

Two: Entrance

Walk in. Don’t scan the bar for skirt. Be mildly laughing and jovial with your crew. Not over the top like some over excited hyenas. No high fives. Order drinks and try to have some kind of brief banter with the barman. OK, if you really must, you can high five the bar man.

Three: Set Up Camp

These doesn’t mean you start doing Frankie Howerd impersonations. No, set up camp in some space which is largely visible. Be focussed on your crew. Your feet should initially all point at each other. Be happy and relaxed for a minute or two. Do not scan the bar, but try to soak in an idea of what the battle ground looks like. Who are the allies, targets and obstacles? There are two kinds of sets. Target sets and pawn sets. A target set is one with a girl you want. A pawn set is one you simply want to use in order to get into a target set.

Four: First Pawn

Begin. Open a pawn set, ideally a set of guys. Anything will do, how many local football teams are there? Is there a game we can see this weekend? Most likely the lads will want to tell you they are fans of such a club and the other club are scumbags. Try to have a light, fun and fairly high energy conversation. Just assume that your target is watching everything you do. All she sees now is the fun guy who is not sharking for skirt. He’s the cool guy, the jack the lad who everyone loves.

Don’t overstay your welcome on the first set. You ideally want to keep it balanced in that atmosphere where it’s not weird if you stay, but it’s not odd if you roll off at any moment either. You don’t want to be stuck talking about who the best English centre back is (currently Michael Keane) for an hour.

Five: Second Pawn

With an idea where your targets are, try to migrate towards them. Open another pawn set, maybe this time with some women in. If there are women in the set, gently DHV yourself. You want women to be interested in you but you don’t want a pawn set to think you’re trying to game their skirt.

Assume that women sense when other women like a guy. It’s a pre-selection switch. You may now see target sets showing an interest. You may not. Either way, don’t think no one is watching. While you may see no fireworks or thumbs up for your efforts, people do notice. Just assume they do.

Six: The Target Set

Open a target set. If you’re getting interest, you can be direct and simply say ‘Hi, I’m Jimmy’. It’ll open. If you’re not, try an indirect opener. It doesn’t have to be much since you’re perceived as the warm end of the pool. ‘Are you guys tourists’ is a good enough indirect opener at times. Remember it’s not the words that matter, it’s the vibe you have set up. You’re the freewheeling banter pack. It would be social ineptitude for any girl to be rude to be the guys who are the warm end of the pool.

Friends celebrating at party

Man talks to obstacle while hot target listens jealously.

So to recap

  • One: Suitable Bar
  • Two: Entrance
  • Three: Set Up Camp
  • Four: First Pawn
  • Five: Second Pawn
  • Six: The Target Set

Tips:

Be creative. Use situational variables to your advantage. If someone walks in dressed as a storm-trooper, befriend him, buy him a shot in exchange for a photo.

Be overheard. So important. Remember that what you say to Dave may be overheard by Sally. Use this gambit wisely. Let Sally overhear that you’re a great guy before you open her. This is the whole point of what you’re doing – raise your value before the opener.

Don’t expect anything. It doesn’t work every time. It works about 1 in 4 if you’re reasonably good. There are situational variables that can always scupper you.

Don’t tell lies. Just tell the truth. The true you is enough if you’ve done your self improvement and present it properly.

A brief description of basic bar game can be found here.

If you want to learn bar game fully then simply buy the Mystery Method. The Mystery Method is two very important things:

One: An explanation of evolutionary biological drives, how they apply to the dating market and how to use this knowledge to your advantage.

Two: A structured method for managing the social dynamics of a bar environment to allow you to manipulate these evolutionary drives.